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anxiety & Depression

Sometimes you are so caught up with things you almost forget to breathe.
There is a niggling feeling inside that things are not quite ok.
Sometimes you worry so much it is hard to stay focused.
You get angry for no reason or your anger is out of proportion.
One day you are working hard, getting a lot done. Next day you crash as if there's no energy left.


Anxiety is about losing control. Sometimes the loss of control is real, for example if a person has been in an accident and is in the hospital, then the feeling of loss of control is very real. Sometimes there is a false perception of loss of control. This is usually because of old fears that are getting triggered. Whether it is a real or perceived anxiety, in our minds and bodies, the distress caused is the same.

Depression is often confused with sadness. Feeling sad is a temporary state. But depression can be a sinking feeling inside, loss of hope, low energy, and feelings of laziness. So that even simple tasks like getting out of bed can become impossible to do. And there is a tendency to shut out the world and retreat to a quiet place to be alone. Importantly, symptoms of depression can be very different between men and women.

Anxiety and depression both are very painful to live with. If you are a parent, for your children to live with parental anxiety or depression can be very difficult. But you don’t have to continue living like this. You CAN get out of it.


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Trauma

You feel haunted by things that happened to you in the past.
You've not overcome your painful childhood.
You lost someone very important and have not been the same since.
You can't say no to people.
You struggle with perfectionism and are very hard on yourself.
Relationships never seem to work out for you. You always attract the wrong kind of people.
You seem easily overwhelmed by emotions, always at the verge of tears.


As they say - trauma has long legs and arms. It has a way of changing us fundamentally and can impact us long after the actual incident. Trauma is defined as any disturbing experience that continues to impact your life even today. Childhood neglect or abuse, being subjected to bullying, being in an abusive relationship, being in an accident or in war - all are traumatic experiences. Feelings of anxiety, depression, emotional breakdowns, relationship difficulties, hyper-vigilance, poor boundaries, lack of assertiveness, flashbacks - are all symptoms of trauma.

Trauma is subjective. What is traumatic for one person may not be so for another. Exposure in childhood to parental neglect, physical or sexual abuse, domestic violence, alcoholism can impact the healthy development of a child. Some of these scars can persist through to adulthood, and manifest in relationship difficulties, feelings of abandonment, substance use, mood disorders, and even physical illnesses.

Trauma gets stored in our mind and body. Our brain is capable of processing a disturbing experience and learn and grow from it. Some disturbing experiences, however, gets "stuck" and don't finish processing. These "stuck" experiences are what we call trauma. These "stuck" experiences easily come to surface when triggered and can make us relive the original disturbing event. 

Trauma can change how we see ourselves. It can lead to a belief system that is self-sabotaging. For example, persistent criticism and dissatisfaction from a parent can lead a child to develop the belief that "I can't do anything right" or "I'm not good enough". Once this belief has taken hold, the child will grow up into an adult that just has given up completely or one that is never happy with themselves no matter what they achieve. 


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EMDR therapy is a gold standard in trauma treatment. It can accelerate the healing process by reprocessing the "stuck" trauma and bringing about an healthier adult perspective. Learn more about EMDR therapy. 

parenting

You fear your child’s behaviour is getting out of control.
Your child is slowly withdrawing and is struggling at school.
You worry that your child will be left behind socially because your child is very quiet.
Complaints from school are pouring in about your child. You wonder what is upsetting him.


Parenting in today’s world is getting more and more complex. With the busy lifestyles, parents are constantly juggling family, work, and parenting. As a result, sometimes you start to doubt if you are a good parent. It can be quite worrisome as your child becomes an adolescent and tries to navigate the world on their own.

In earlier times, raising a child was a shared responsibility between parents and extended family such as grandparents, aunts, and uncles. But that has changed significantly now. Because of which parenting can often become very stressful. In the case of single parents, this can cause a role overload where the one parent is trying to fulfil the role of two.

If you have a child with special needs, parenting can be tricky because you need to understand your child's condition and adjust your parenting techniques accordingly. 

Despite the struggles, you want your child to grow up strong mentally and emotionally. And quality guidance at the right time can really boost your confidence in yourself as a parent.

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Family

Fights and arguments in your family are a regular thing.
Your family has been thrown into a crisis and you need guidance.
You need to make some decisions about your family situation but you don’t know what options you have.
There are things that you simply cannot discuss with anyone and you need help desperately.


Your family is your refuge and place of nurturance. So the quality of the family relationships determines how peaceful you feel at home.

Families can become destabilised because of conflict between family members or because of a stressful event or crisis. Families often carry on in a negative steady state for many years. Result is that family members live in constant distress. And this can take a huge toll in terms of physical and mental health.

You may be living in this situation for a while now. It can be heartbreaking to see so much  pain in the family, especially if you have young children. It is often not possible to share the family situation with anyone. So you end up feeling quite powerless to do anything.

But this need not go on. You have a choice to do something about it. Even if your spouse or other family members are unwilling to cooperate, we can still discuss and find options for you to improve things. Like they say – if you don’t ask, the answer is always no.

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